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School is going great and is the main cause of slacking when it comes to blogging. SO MUCH HOMEWORK! No, really though, it’s not horrible. Anatomy & Physiology is keeping me pretty busy. Micro Computer Applications utilizes Microsoft Office 2010 – a software I’ve been using for months. Sociology I haven’t formed an opinion on yet as we only meet once a week and have only had one class so far. Orientation – I should have taken as a Freshman – I do like the instructor though so maybe I’ll actually get something out of it.


Work … is going. I do still like my job but with me going back to school the decision was made that I should probably resign. My last day to work at the ACE NET offices will be March 11, 2011. A bittersweet moment I should think. I do know that going back to school was the right thing to do and that’s truly where the peace is but I will miss my friends (co-workers) as well.


Boys are HUGE!! Seriously. I can’t remember if I’ve stated this before or not but E-man can eat an entire 8 pieces of pizza all by himself  in ONE sitting! I can’t remember if that’s a large or a medium but you get the point. ZigZag has decided he doesn’t like food. Or rather, that he wants a teeny bit of everything – not even enough to equal one bite most times. I’ve decided I don’t like it when their food tastes change, especially because they tend to change just as I’ve gotten used to what they have been. Aside from food, both boys are doing great in school. And they’re wearing me out talking about which sports or musical adventures they want to challenge next! Soccer. Baseball. Cub Scouts. Karate. Swimming. Drums. Bass. Guitar. It’s enough to make me dizzy!!


My passions. The things I do when I have nothing else to do – which is rare these days. Photography is on hold through the rest of January but I’m hoping to open February with a couple of contests that will be posted here so keep an eye out for those. Writing – what I would be doing. I’m feeling the need to write again so maybe I’ll start the outline for the book that’s been in my mind for ages.

Life in General.

Life is good. Very good. A few things I’m looking forward to: Winter Bible Seminar, Spring Break, Summer 🙂 Just to name a few. Oh, and snow!! Supposedly we’re getting snow tonight – we’ll have to wait and see how right the weather people are this time. 🙂 All in all, 2011 is looking to be a GREAT year!

I think that’s it for the moment. I know, it’s not as deep as some of the more recent posts I’ve done but life isn’t all about how deep it is. It’s all about how you handle what’s thrown at you – do you handle it with grace or do you crumble?


Ten Day Challenge. Day 8.

So, way over on my facebook page a friend challenged me to a 10 day challenge. Normally I won’t do these things but this one piqued my interest. It’s a quite a bit different than your normal “challenges”. At least what’s considered normal for Facebook these day! :)

Here’s the rules:

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.

Day Two: Nine things about yourself.

Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.

Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.

Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.

Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)

Day Seven: Four turn offs.

Day Eight: Three turn ons.

Day Nine: Two smileys that describe your life right now.

Day Ten: One confession.


Here’s my Day 8 –

Three turn ons:


Rather – the 3 things I look at first 🙂


1. Hands. Hands are incredible. They can be used to build and to heal, but they can also be used to destroy. You can tell a lot about a person by their hands.

2. Smile. A smile that makes the eyes twinkle. A real one. Not that fake stuff or that “trying to be cool” smirk.

3. Eyes. Eyes are the window to the soul. That being said – no secrets. 🙂



*This list is NOT all inclusive!


Ten Day Challenge. Day 2.

So, way over on my facebook page a friend challenged me to a 10 day challenge. Normally I won’t do these things but this one piqued my interest. It’s a quite a bit different than your normal “challenges”. At least what’s considered normal for Facebook these day! :)

Here’s the rules:

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.

Day Two: Nine things about yourself.

Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.

Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.

Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.

Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)

Day Seven: Four turn offs.

Day Eight: Three turn ons.

Day Nine: Two smileys that describe your life right now.

Day Ten: One confession.

Here’s my Day 2 –

Nine things about myself:

1. I’m a dreamer and a realist. The dreamer side of me still wants to write children’s books and do photography full-time and be a freelance/travel writer. The realist side of me says I need to take care of my boys. The realist side wins but the dreamer gets visitation.

2. Some of my happiest memories are from years spent doing volunteer work at church. Everything from Acquire the Fire to NBCAA/USCAA basketball tournaments and whatever is in between. I am happiest in God’s presence.

3. I detest drama. With a passion. Even more so when I find that I have inadvertently created it just by saying a few little words in passing. This is what happens when people misconstrue stuff and don’t ask for clarification before spreading the words around.

4. I prefer conversations that aren’t singularly focused. So if we have different variations of the same conversation every time we speak don’t be offended if I look a little bored. You’re not keeping my interest and I’ve already voiced my opinion – probably multiple times. Continuing a previous conversation, however, is completely different.

5. I have systems and/or lists for just about everything. Doing things “fly by night” is very difficult for me because I like to have things planned. No, I’m not OCD, I just like to know what I’m getting into.

6. Contrary to popular belief I don’t like being the center of attention. Every once in a while it’s expected (birthdays and such) but not daily. I have no problem being extroverted but at the end of the day you’ll find me curled up with a book or asleep – not because I’m being rude but because I need to recharge.

7. I’m learning to be more organic and “green” when it comes to life. I fully believe we should be taking care of our Earth but that is also something that starts with the internal. Take care of things at home before trying to conquer the world.

8. I do want to get remarried at some point but I’m leaving it up to God to show me who’s best for me and the boys. No, I’m not dating anyone and am not a fan of blind dates. Yes, there is an interest and no it’s not up for discussion.

9. I absolutely love being a mom. And even though I work a lot now and may go back to school, I would honestly rather be able to stay home with them all the time. There’s so many things to do in a day that just a couple hours after work is not enough time to spend with them.

A Proverbs 31 Woman.

Sometimes I think God has the most incredible sense of humor and likes to play jokes on me. Yes, I know this is not true (the joke playing part anyway) but I know I’m not the only one who occasionally thinks this.

In the last few weeks I’ve found myself “wishing” for a lot of things. Things like moving west, being able to stay at home more (even if it means working from home), being able to sew and there be a good quality to the stitching; just random things. Even to the point that I’m making hair-bows (mind you, I’m raising boys!), and bought a little handheld sewing machine so I can transform some of my sons pants into shorts or add patches because they’ve totally destroyed the knees.

I’ve also had a very strong desire to start dating again. But, not just random dating to date – date with intention. Intention basically means to do something with an expected result in mind. So, to date with intention is not an overly new thing in general. Most people who are open to dating assume that at some point they’ll be getting married. That’s kind where I’m going too. But I’m approaching it more as an interview rather than the chick from “Project Husband” who’s got her gown and date set and everything BUT the groom. I’m not quite to that point and frankly hope to never sound that desperate. I prefer to be chased as opposed to being the chaser. I want whomever I marry to want me because God truly put us together, not because of some trite, self-set deadline. I also know that I need to do some serious work on myself.

In the last year, I’ve had the desire to become more of a Proverbs 31 Woman. Now, I read this passage(Proverbs 31:10-31) nearly everyday as a teenager and had it committed to memory at one point so I pretty much could tell you what it said without looking it up but I’m going to publicly (the internet’s about as public as it gets!) admit that I haven’t read this passage in a while. So I read it and you wouldn’t believe how much I laughed, truly laughed, at this. Not at the passage necessarily but because of how literally it applies to areas of my life at the moment. And no, I’m not saying I’m truly a “Proverbs 31 Woman” but I’ve got a pretty good start!

I have posted below two versions of Proverbs 31:10-31. Both versions that I prefer to read (though there are many options!) and they’re color-coded so that all one color is the same version. Just an idea of what kind of woman I’m trying to be.

Proverbs 31:10-31

In Praise of a Good Wife

(Contemporary English Version)

(English Standard Version)

10 A truly good wife is the most precious treasure a man can find!

10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.

11 Her husband depends on her, and she never lets him down.

11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain

12 She is good to him every day of her life,

12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

13 and with her own hands she gladly makes clothes.

13 She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands.

14 She is like a sailing ship that brings food from across the sea.

14 She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar.

15 She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and for her servants.

15 She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.

16 She knows how to buy land and how to plant a vineyard,

16 She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

17 and she always works hard.

17 She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.

18 She knows when to buy or sell, and she stays busy until late at night.

18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night.

19 She spins her own cloth,

19 She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle.

20 and she helps the poor and the needy.

20 She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy.

21 Her family has warm clothing, and so she doesn’t worry when it snows.

21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.

22 She does her own sewing, and everything she wears is beautiful.

22 She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is a well-known and respected leader in the city.

23 Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.

24 She makes clothes to sell to the shop owners.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant.

25 She is strong and graceful, as well as cheerful about the future.

25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.

26 Her words are sensible, and her advice is thoughtful.

26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

27 She takes good care of her family and is never lazy.

27 She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children praise her, and with great pride her husband says,

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “There are many good women, but you are the best!”

29 Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.

30 Charm can be deceiving, and beauty fades away, but a woman who honors the Lord deserves to be praised.

30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Show her respect— praise her in public for what she has done.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.

God Said It.

Okay. I know I said I wasn’t going to post anything new until I finished up the rest of the drafts I have started but there’s something weighing on my mind. Besides, I’m down to just 4 drafts left anyway. As my kids say, “easy – peasy”!

There’s a misconception surrounding some things in my life. Most people assume that because I’m the one who filed for divorce that it didn’t bother me at all to actually go through it. That’s false in so many ways that that topic alone would be enough fodder for one post in and of itself so I’m not going into it here. What I am going to dwell on this time around are some things I have learned in the last 2.5 years since it was final, most especially the last 6 months or so.

Have you ever notice that it’s so easy to do many things by ourselves but when it comes to church most people cop out because they don’t want to be alone?

Late last summer and into the fall God told me that the boys and I need to be back at Rhema for church. More often than not last year we were not in church which truly bothered me. Between my insane work and school schedules, E’s soccer schedule, and the fact we live 45 minutes to an hour away from most churches the boys like we were rarely able to go. I told God that if He really wanted us back at Rhema He needed to provide the time and a job that gave me that time and would still let me raise my boys.

The holiday season drew closer and if you know anything about being a photographer you know that any holiday is going to be crazy, especially Christmas. Rather than getting more time to be able to drive into Broken Arrow I was working more and more. Between school and work I think my parents saw so much more of my kids than I did. I can’t even begin to count the number of times I would come home only to hug and kiss them goodnight and send them to bed, an hour or two past their bedtime. At least with working for myself I could plan my hours, working for someone else put me at their beck and call and meant that I worked every holiday.

Things at work went from bad to worse. I ended up putting school on hold for the Spring 2010 semester so that my girls at work (and my customers) would have some stability with all the changes that were happening. We lost 1 manager to maternity leave and 1 to a job transfer. In the midst of all of the details involved things got so bad that I was given no choice but to give my notice and leave. No, I wasn’t fired. I just would have spent more money on babysitters than I would have made which is not a good thing. So, I left. On the same day I left so did two of my girls and what had been a fantastically great thing came to an end.

Right around the same time all of this was happening, I interviewed for a job working with my best friend. Several days later I went back for a second interview and was hired. All in all, I spent about 5 days in between jobs and felt like I’d had a mini-vacation. I got to go to nearly all of Winter Bible Seminar which was a huge thing. with my new job, I’m working more of a M-F “bankers hours” schedule so to speak. I also somehow managed to join the choir part of the Easter production “The Choice” performed at Rhema over Easter weekend – mainly so my oldest son could also be in the play.

Since January the boys and I have been back at Rhema. It wasn’t easy going alone at first and still isn’t super easy but I’m getting used to it. I’ve met some very nice people over the last few months. And with a church as big as Rhema it’s very easy to sit in the same place every service and yet not see the same people around you twice.

I have always been a people person, for as long as I can remember anyway. But with the divorce I learned not only some things about myself but who my real friends were/are. In short, my world became very small. I’ve spent the last 2.5 years or so raising my boys and figuring out me, trying to at least. Figuring out when I was most happy and the things that I like to do because I like them not because everyone else does and I tolerate them. One of things the struck me as a “happy time” was volunteering in church, both at Rhema and Victory. That was when I was most “me”.

But, the “me” now has been afraid to go back to the “me” then because that means stepping out of my little world that I’ve become so comfortable in. Taking that huge step and getting back to the basics, going home so to speak. Rhema is after all the reason my family moved to Oklahoma to begin with. I was content, too content, and would have just kept going on the same path I had been on. Not destructive or anything like that just complacent and settled.

But, I did it. I took the huge step of getting out of myself and stepping back onto familiar territory surrounded by unfamiliar faces. I did it because God said to. And you know what, I’m so much happier now that I’m “home” and my kids actually enjoy going to church. God knows what He’s talking about!

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